Do you really know yourself?

Unlike “wellness,” wellbeing is not a superficial trend, but a lifestyle. 

In a world where popular wellness trends can be misleading, true wellbeing emerges as a really personal endeavour, and self-knowledge is the starting point.

Do you even know who you really are?

The first step I took in my self-discovery journey was identifying my core values and beliefs. It was about considering what is truly important to me in relationships, work, and personal development.

Here is a framework I used that I found useful which you can use for this week’s experiment. (note: if you already know your values, you can use this as a way to reconnect with them).

***You will need a piece of paper to jot down your answers to the questions.

Values Framework Experiment

STEP 1

Take a deep breathe in for four seconds, hold for four seconds and then breath out for 6 seconds. Do this 3 times.

Imagine a time when you were happiest. Close your eyes and picture this for 60 seconds. Really imagine you are in the moment.

Write down: 

• What were you doing?

• How do you feel? 

• Were you with other people? Who?

• What other factors were contributing to your happiness?

Take another deep breath in for four seconds, hold for four seconds and then breathe out for six seconds. Do this 3 times.

STEP 2

Now imagine a time when you were most proud. Close your eyes and picture this for 60 seconds.

Write down:

• Why were you proud?

• Did other people share your pride? Who?

• What other factors contributed to your feelings of pride?

Take another deep breath in for four seconds, hold for four seconds and then breathe out for six seconds. Do this 3 times.

Step 3

Imagine a time when you were most fulfilled and satisfied.  Close your eyes and picture this for 60 seconds.

Write down:

• What need or desire was fulfilled?

• How and why did the experience give your life meaning?

• What other factors contributed to your feelings of fulfilment?

THE FINAL STEP

Determine your top values, based on your experiences of happiness, pride, and fulfilment.

Remember why is each experience truly important and memorable? Use the following list of common personal values to help you get started – and aim for about 5 top values. (As you work through, you may find that some of these naturally combine. For instance, if you value philanthropy, community, and generosity, you might say that service to others is one of your top values.)

Once you get crystal clear on your values then you can make decisions about work, family, relationships better, and ultimately live a more fulfilling and happy life. 

Sending much love, 

Meg